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Speed seduction is a topic that is getting a lot of attention. An air of excitement and taboo surrounds it. Maybe you’ve heard of Ross Jeffries’s speed seduction seminars. You may have seen or heard of “The Pick Up Artist” on VH1 in which Mystery, a pickup guru, teaches “AFCs” (average frustrated chumps) to flirt with beautiful women and become pick-up artists.

There are many interesting social implications to the art of speed seduction (also known as “game”). The more I study the techniques of speed seduction, flirtation, and dating, the more I realize that these techniques can be used in any situation, whether it be flirtation and casual dating, friendly encounters, or even business or work-related interactions. The arts of seduction and flirtation are the oldest in the world.

If you’re having trouble dating (and we could all use some help with dating), here are some speed seduction techniques that will put you on the path to becoming a pick-up artist. Learn the basics to flirting, dating, and seducing anyone you desire:

Establish Rapport and Interest

–Mirroring

Pick-up artists understand that most of our communication is established through body language. As you mirror someone’s body language, it will be subconsciously picked up (by the other person) that you have the same internal state (emotions, beliefs, ideas, patterns).

Remember, this is not an exercise in mimicry. Do not repeat their gestures and body language exactly, but close enough so that he/she can subconsciously pick it up.

The pick-up artist will remember which gestures express specific internal states and will mirror them to increase the subject’s level of comfort and sexual excitement.

–Maintain Eye Contact

Eye contact shows interest and confidence. It is a key element in flirtation. You don’t have to stare the person down, but make sure that they know you’re there. It communicates that you’re not too afraid or weak to be dating them. The general rule is to make as much eye contact as your date or pick-up is comfortable with.

As a dating expert who has given dating advice to thousands of people since early 2000, there are 20 basic Do’s and Don’t Rules in the world of dating to help you increase your chances of succees in the world of dating. Dating can be fun and exciting but getting involved with the wrong person can destroy your life.

How do you put the odds in your favor when dating? I have broken down the top 20 Rules of Dating to help you find that special person.

TOP 10 DATING DON’TS.

1. Do relax and have fun. Dating is supposed to be fun so make it fun. Choose activities that you both love so you can relax, laugh and enjoy. If you think dating is miserable, then don’t do it.

2. Do groom yourself before your date. Make sure you are freshly showered, have fresh breath and have an outfit on that flatters you. Save your crazy or overly sexy outfits for when you get to know the person better.

3. Do Listen. Listening is more important than talking. Ask your date lots of questions and hone in on similar interests. Don’t brag about yourself constantly because that is the ultimate turn-off.

4. Compliment your date. If you think your date looks nice, say so. Don’t focus on your date’s imperfections; focus on their good points. If it looks like your date took time to get ready, compliment them by letting them know.

5. Be positive. Don’t complain on your date. Nobody wants to hear how miserable you are. A poor attitude can destroy a date faster than anything.

6. Be honest and upfront. If the date didn’t click, tell your partner that you will have to think about it and that you will contact them again if you are interested.

7. Be proactive. You need to take the initiative to meet people to date. Practice flirting, smile, be friendly and make eye contact. This will show people you are available and will increase your chances of being asked out.

8. Do date creatively. Don’t go to the movies where you can’t talk or get to know your date better. Go to dinner, bowling and then a movie or go horseback riding, hiking or to an arts or music festival.

9. Do let your friends and family know you are dating. You never know when someone you know may try playing matchmaker for you. It may or may not work out but you should be open to meeting someone new.

10. Do be polite and have manners. Offer to pay for all or half of the date even if you are a woman. Say “please” and “thank you” and be respectful of the other person’s feelings.

10 DATING RULE DON’TS

1. Don’t be late for a date. Make sure you leave early enough to deal with traffic delays or other things that could delay you. Being late shows that you don’t respect the other person’s time and sets the date off on the wrong foot.

2. Don’t chase someone. Don’t phone, text or email them more than once a day unless you are in a conversation with them and they are replying. Being desperate is a huge turn off.

3. Don’t date people who you think will use you. If you have money, don’t tell the other person. If a man comes on too strong for sex early on, shut him down and move on. You want someone who wants you for you, not what you can do for them or give them. Once they get what they want, they’ll move on to their next target.

4. Don’t lie to your date. Don’t over exaggerate your income, education or what you do. These lies will eventually come out and then you will appear as a dishonest loser.

5. Don’t come on too strong. If you are anxious to get married right away, that’s okay. However, constantly talking about serious commitment issues such as marriage and children on a first date can scare your date away.

6. Don’t sit around and wait for his or her call. Stay busy. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who immediately drops their life or routine for someone they just met. Your goal is to have a fulfilled life that another person will enhance.

7. Don’t get drunk or use drugs on your date. What kind of an impression are you making if you are incoherent when you first meet? Your date will think you are like that with all people.

8. Don’t flirt with others while on a date. This may seem like common sense but nothing will end your date faster than you hitting on your date’s friend or flirting with someone else.

9. Don’t have sex with someone until you have dated a while. A while does not mean one or two dates. If it was meant to be, it will be and part of the fun of dating is the thrill of the chase.

10. Don’t give out too much personal information on a first date. Keep your home address and telephone number confidential until you get to know your date better and make sure you always meet in a public place.

Every now and then, when I am bored, I scan wall posts of some of my Facebook friends. It can be a pretty good gage of what people are doing for fun in your town. People also tend to throw their personal lives out there on Facebook more than they ever would in the real world. The other day I was scanning posts and came across the following exchange:(I will not link to it as it would be a violation of Facebook’s TOS)

This was a wall post on the profile of a Facebook friend:

“ohh so evidently there is this new pick up line that guys are using it goes like this ” hey so i would like to see you again” me ” yeah you want my number” he says ” well do you have facebook i can find you on there???” i say ” hahaha yeah no that was the worst pick up line” then i walked away haha yeah that is sad the world is comming to this::. damn wtf

Doesn’t that pretty much sum up Generation Y dating? For a lot of my dating life, there were not even cell phones so you had to ask for a home number taking the risk of nosy parents, brothers and sisters answering the phone. You had to be on your game from minute one. How in the world did our parents get by? Isn’t it amazing we are even here? God forbid we should actually have to look someone in the eye

Now we are not even asking for phone number. We are asking for email addresses, Facebook and MySpace pages etc. I would bet that within the 20-45 crowd there are almost as many relationships started and ended by text or email than by an actual phone call or god forbid you have the guts to actually meet someone in person and talk about a future or lack thereof:.

In my day, if you met a girl in a bar and she thought you were a total geekoid loser, the phone number she gave you was actually the phone number to Blockbuster Video. (I rented a lot of movies:..) For Generation Y, you got one of those numbers you can buy that gives the person a message telling them you got the number because you are a loser and to leave the person alone like on Seinfeld. There are services such as The Rejection Hotline who has pre-recorded “rejection phone numbers to cover just about any scenario.

Today, your blowoff is a girl giving you an address to her Facebook or MySpace page entitled:

“SALLIE”S MYSPACE PAGE DEDICATED TO TOTAL LOSER GEEKS SHE MET IN A BAR ”

When are we going to start seeing “wiki” personals and social networking sites where everyone who knows you basically creates your profile.  Would you have the guts to turn yor social page into a “wiki” and let the masses colloborate on what your page should say?  A social wikipieda not geared at the facts of your life but at who you really are:..

We have gone from Dear John Letters to Dear John Phone Number to Dear John Texts to Dear John social networking pages.

I am definitely not naming my kid John. The odds are against him meeting someone right off the bat.

Welcome to dating in the Web 2.0 world::

1. Too much too soon - you describe about yourself in “about me”, you attach some picture, stream your own video, adjust simple CSS for attraction and “bling-bling” animation until someone come up. There has been an exchange of emails and comments. You find yourself getting up earlier in the morning just to log on to the site. This has gone on for a couple of weeks and he/she suddenly asks if can call you. Your chest expands (kembang buntut) you are really excited and arrange a time. Now you are curled up in your favourite chair waiting for the call. Troot troot, her/his voice is not what you expect but that is OK. You talk for an hour. This becomes a daily ritual which you begin to plan your time around. Then he ask for dinner (lelaki kenala gentleman takkan pompuan yang ajak kot)

2. Throwing money at it - Your immediate thought is what to wear, need my hair done etc. This means that you spend the best part of a week running around with the one thought in your mind “I must get this right”. You seem to have disappeared and you feel that you need to invent a new person to go on this date. In order to be that person you have to package yourself in some particular way. There must be some key that you can find, a particular dress, new haircut etc. You believe that you need to make yourself more appealing.

3. Thinking that you know the person - The evening has arrived and you meet at the arranged restaurant (good step, as all the dating advice recommends that you meet in a public place). You are especially nervous and excited but also slightly uncomfortable because the shoes are new. (dating punya pasal) It is strange you recognise this person but at the same time you don’t. The voice you know that but he does not look like the person in the photograph, taller, shorter a bit heavier or something is not as you imagined. Anyway he seems quite at ease but maybe that is just a contrast to how you are feeling. Initially conversation is going well as there are points of contact from your previous conversations but it isn’t going anywhere. By the main course you are starting to drink a little too much to fill in the silences. Your feet really hurt now and you are taking surreptitious glances at your watch - only 9 o’clock. No dessert thanks and by the way you have an early start in the office tomorrow so you have to go soon. Can’t think of anything but getting out of the shoes. Yes it was good, do call me.

4. “Fantasy” it’s only in your head - Next day or later in the week, the emails/calls are still coming and you continue to respond. It’s a though you have never met and you can get on with the easy going repartee that has become almost a habit. In your mind he is something you want him to be, well not quite but you can have yourself believe that he is whilst you exchange messages and late night calls. You are starting to develop a whole life in your head around this person, you imagine where you can live with him, what you will do, holidays together in fact everything you ever want with someone. This is taking up a lot of head space but that is enjoyable in itself, you feel connected to someone if only in your mind.

5. Not paying attention to the signals - A week or so more and you are becoming slightly irritated by the emails and are not responding quite so readily. But he asks you if you want to come out for another evening and that heart leaps to your throat again. You agree even though there is a vague memory of discomfort from the first meeting. Well you remind yourself that all the dating advice recommends that it is about getting to know someone. I can’t expect to feel comfortable about everything immediately. He is suggesting dinner again, you don’t really want to but you are not sure what you want to do so you go along with it. You had arranged to see a girl-friend that night but you tell her you can’t make it, she seems a bit put-out but you put that thought aside.

The second evening seems very long.

Too much too soon - It is so tempting to put all your focus on one person at a time when you are looking to date on the internet. But it is important to remember that not only are all those people out there looking at numerous people at any one time but you could be too. If you put most of your time and energy into any one contact at a very early stage this means that you cannot scout, screen and sort other possible people.

Are you a divorced man who wishes he had more knowledge on how to start dating back in the single pool again?

Where do you start?

How do you meet women again?

Do you know how to properly approach beautiful women? It seems that things have changed so much. How do you begin anew?

In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It’s been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature, feels a bit foreign.

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Where do you go when you are looking for love?

Are you considering joining an online dating site but not sure it’s for you?

Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles.

A couple of years ago online dating still had a stigma attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.

I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. At the time, I was rather surprised as she was an attractive girl who would be considered quite a catch. However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.

Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any “singleton” jealous. She then struck up an online relationship with someone who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him. Obviously, the distance didn’t make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday. Although he didn’t turn out to be “the one”, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was “Definitely not!” Her view was that if she hadn’t joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering “what if”. She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!

If you’re not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-

1. You don’t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.

2. You don’t have to get dressed up for a night “online”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.

3. If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.

4. If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

5. If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.

6. If you are new to an area online dating is a great way of meeting people whether it’s for friendship or dating. If you meet a few people online in your area, you can arrange a get together for you all rather than meeting on a one-to-one basis.

7. If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!

8. Anonymous messaging and chat rooms let you flirt to your heart’s content without any embarrassment or getting tongue-tied.

9. You will probably find out more about someone online before you arrange a date with them than you would if you had met them in a bar. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that can’t be a bad thing!

10. We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.

11. Finally, 1 month’s membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your perfect partner – every night!

With so many positive reasons to go online for love, finding your perfect partner has never been easier. Try it out for yourself and please let me know how you’re doing.

The biggest question in Russian dating is how to cross the language barrier. Many of the UK women that have sought the help of a dating agency already speak English. If they do not a translator can be involved in many cases. Some of the Russian dating services will provide a translator at no additional cost in order to communicate with your new partner. Reading letters may be more of a trick so you may want to try your hand at learning the Russian language. It does not take long to learn English or Russian either one so relax and just get to know her. Do not worry about the little things!

The second biggest question is why are there so many women that turn to Russian dating sites. The answer to this question is simple, there are no more Russian or UK women in the dating scene than any other cultures. Many people assume when they hear the term Russian dating that these women are simply trying to leave their country. This is a myth and false, most of these women are content. They are just like everyone else they are looking for love regardless of where their partner lives. Love knows no boundaries or culture so it is irrelevant what part of the world you are from. There are so many wonderful love stories where thousands of miles were in between, so consider Russian dating.

Another big question in regards to Russian dating, is why the women are so slim. Obesity in America is an epidemic and is thought to be due to unhealthy eating habits. In the UK fast foods and social drinking are not as much a part of life in the Western cultures. So there you have it. It is not because they all spend hours in the gym per day. Some of them may have rigorous schedules of exercise, but it seems that there is less of a focus on social eating in the UK.

Lastly, many wonder how much it will cost to actually have a physical date with their partner. This is where Russian dating can be a little different from traditional dating. Depending on the Embassy there are different methods and costs associated with flying your date home. If you choose it may be easier for you to visit the UK. That way you can learn a bit about the culture and meet the family of your new partner. Culture truly makes a person what they are so this would be a good time to experience the difference in living.

Russian dating is not only an exciting experience, but also can help you find a mate of a lifetime. Many from the UK and Russia are looking for a long-term relationship and take the family unit very seriously. So if you are looking for a long-term commitment than look no further than the Russian dating scene. You should follow the online safety guidelines and tips from the experts and you should not go wrong.

Summer it’s the time of the year that most of us like and badly expecting. It is the time for enjoying outdoors, getting hot and sweaty; it is all about lazy, hot days and fun filled nights. When talking about summer the first things that come in your mind are pool parties, beach music, barbecues, ice cream, cold drinks and a lot of fun.
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Is it love that a person seeks or sex? The question strikes your mental chords at once. Some say that love without sex is not feasible and vice versa. This of course is in reference to committed relationship and not casual dating.
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